You know that feeling, when a gathering or meeting just isn’t going as well as it should? When something feels off but we just can’t quite put our finger on it? It might be a wobbly because people are not clear on what I call the “hosting pattern” for the gathering.
Read MoreWhen we use technology like Zoom, even with a panel presentation, when we choose to allow participants to see each other we are allowing the community that has gathered to see each other and make further contact with itself. We choose to enable, rather than disable, community agency.
Read MoreIt is reasonable to expect that feelings can be talked about and explored in a personal relationship. It is reasonable to expect that drivers can happily go on their way when no accidents happen. There is something out of proportion, and deeply unfortunate, in the behaviour of the gaslighter and the angry old white man.
Read More“Let this book take you by the hand. You will be nourished, informed, and shown the patterns that influence self, others, city, and the power of compassion like a caring mentor who would support your whole person to blossom.”
Read MoreAt a conference where the crowd assembled believes in designing cities to mitigate and adapt to climate change, we avoided talking about the heat—the emotional heat. And avoiding emotional heat means avoiding the hard work needed to effect the changes we say we want.
Read MoreHe was a conference speaker with an urgent message: we must change our ways or we will die. We will only save ourselves if we do what he says, what he prescribes.
Read MoreMy two kids are great at metaphors. The latest: that they are buying a car “with training wheels”. Whether it is kids, co-workers, students, anyone for whom we serve as training wheels, this experience has taught me a few vital things about my relationship with the sovereignty of people making decisions, whether they are my kids, clients, friends (or myself!):
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